I received an email from someone who was saying that it was difficult to live with active alcoholism. And how hard it is when our culture seems to think that drinking to excess is okay and socially acceptable.
First off, living with active alcoholism was a nightmare for me. And I know that even with Al-Anon, it would be impossible for me to stay in a relationship with active alcoholic drinking. My struggle to rescue and enable is still very real. And that does more harm to the alcoholic in many ways. I can feel the anxiety as I type this, thinking about what it used to be like. If I were to have any peace, I would not again live with an alcoholic who is not serious about recovery.
As far as our society glamorizing alcohol, I see it a lot in social groups, although most of us now have realized that drinking every day is not only unhealthy but not sustainable. That being said, the young people I am around seem to revel in partying and drinking. This is a college town so there are plenty who get sick from alcohol toxicity. And I think to myself that there will be a place for them in the rooms of AA someday if they don't stop. Sadly, because alcoholism is a progressive disease, they may not be able to stop. Those who can't will keep it up until they are real alcoholics.
I remember what my wife's sponsor said: "If what you hear at a meeting drives you out, alcohol will drive you back in." I believe that is true for both programs of AA and Al-Anon. I am glad that I stayed and have continued. It isn't a solution for everyone, but it was one that I could embrace and where I found peace of mind.
Sending good thoughts to you.